Relationship Intimacy-Part 2-Clues That It is Too Soon

Does the old saying still hold true about a man not buying the cow when the milk if free? Yes, this is still true, and if you have sex too early in the relationship you send out signals that you don’t value yourself enough to protect your emotions. As a result you lower your value in the man’s eye.

The question is: How do you know when it’s too early for relationship intimacy with your new guy? What are some of the signs?

This is what I call the Relationship Intimacy Test. Hopefully this will guide you into making the right decision.

If you have never been to his home. This could be because he is married or has a girlfriend, or a total slob. Bottom line, if you have not been to his home, you do not need to get intimate with him.

If you have never had a date with him on a weekend night or weekend day. This could mean that he is spending that time with a wife or girlfriend. If he doesn’t think that you are worthy of his quality time, then he isn’t worthy of your quality time.

You don’t have a commitment from him and you don’t want to say anything because you are afraid he will dump you.

You know or suspect that he’s married or has a girlfriend. Why waste your time with a man that is taken or worse, a player.

You haven’t discussed safe sex or any sexual illnesses that either of you may have. It is not wise to hope or assume that he is healthy.

Alcohol or drugs play a part in your relationship. It is not very wise to choose a partner when you are under the influence, as this leads to failure and heartache.

Relationship intimacy before you are emotionally ready for is gambling. You are gambling that his attitude toward you isn’t going to change. If your relationship becomes intimate with a man whom you are not monogamous, then he feels free to betray you. You are leaving yourself wide open for hurt.

Look for the signs that the man you are with wants a committed relationship with you. This means a discussion that you two are exclusive. Don’t have sex then as him where the relationship is going.

Don’t let your emotions override your good judgment because you are infatuated. When you have relationship intimacy too early you choose to value him more than you value yourself.

Relationship intimacy too early risks too much. You may feel bonded to him, but he may or may not feel bonded to you.