Connecting Emotionally Before Connecting Sexually

Have you ever had sex with a man too soon, and then you were too embarrassed or grossed out and just want to forget it? Have you thought you really liked someone, then had sex with him and was immediately turned off? This is when you mistake sexual chemistry for compatibility.

Having sex too soon is one of the most common mistakes that women make in their relationships with men.

The question most women have is: how long should I wait? It is not about a certain time frame, it is about connecting emotionally first. It is of the utmost importance that you connect emotionally before you get sexually connect, the foundation that is built to last a lifetime is intimacy and not sex.

Basically, postpone have sex for as long as possible, until you know it’s the right time and until you and your partner have connected emotionally.

So, when is it time to become sexually intimate? You should be connecting emotionally before you are sexually intimate. What that means is, you should be spending more time talking and learning about each other as you do kissing and fooling around. You should feel comfortable discussing anything with your partner. You should be communicatingabout the relationship openly.

You should be emotionally intimate before you are sexually intimate. In other words, you shouldn’t be connecting downstairs if you are not connecting upstairs. You share a bond and closeness that you don’t experience with anyone else. You should have both shared verbally deep feelings for each other, and you should really love who the person is on the inside. You should respect him and the way he lives his life, and how he treats you and other people.

You should have discussed both birth control and agree on whatever form you are going to use, and have discussed the possibility of pregnancy and his attitude toward it. You should have discussed any type of STD that either of you might have. Don’t assume that he is healthy. Followings these steps will ensure that you don’t end up having casual sex with a man, and protecting your emotions at the same time.

Always be yourself and be honest. When you are honest you prevent misunderstandings that you could sabotage your relationship. The man that truly loves you will respect you for being honest, and also respect and love you even more for postponing sex.