Relationship Intimacy Part 1

In today’s society it seems acceptable to have casual sex, however, if you really have feelings for someone this could be a big mistake. Especially for women. It is common knowledge that men are more motivated by what they see, and women are more motivated by what they feel. When a woman gets intimate with a man, her feelings and emotions get involved as well.

When you first meet a guy, you are caught up in the excitement and thrill of it all and your judgment gets clouded. Keep in mind that his level of interest in you may or may not last and you will need to give him enough time to prove himself to you, to avoid getting hurt. You will have to see if he cares enough about you not to do anything to hurt you, and you will have to be certain you can trust each other. You’ll have to allow enough time to see if the two of you are compatible in the long run.

Until he has had time to develop feelings for you, sex to him is just sex, and doesn’t carry any deeper meaning or promise. Men get sex, while women give it, savvy women realize this.

Clearing the deck of sex keeps you in the present moment. When you become sexual too soon, you put all your energy toward your sex life, and you haven’t given yourself enough time to see how the relationship will develop. It also means that you are racing ahead. If you postpone sex, you will be able to see those red flags or other areas that need addressing.

If you engage in sex too soon, you’ll overlook what isn’t working because you have bonded yourself too closely to him.

Postponing sex does not mean that you are rejecting sex; it does mean, however, that you are choosing not to act on every sexual impulse, and it allows sensuality to come to the forefront. Connecting with another person first on an emotional and sensual level rather than the physical level builds a stronger, more intimate foundation. Wise women bond with a man emotionally, spiritually and intellectually before allowing a sexual intimacy to grow.

The man that is interested in you will not want to rush into sex, he will want to date you and see where the relationship goes. If you want to know who he is, say “no” to sex. The man who remains interested respects you and likes you for who you are, and a relationship with him is worth taking a look at.